(Háttér, Hungary) Beyond the numerous similarities between same-sex and opposite-sex abusive relationships, there are some specificities connected to the social attitudes towards homo- and bisexuality. Lizi (23) was 16 when entering her first, lesbian and abusive relationship. “She had been telling me for months that she wouldn’t believe I was a lesbian and how do I know if I haven’t kissed a guy. She wouldn’t want me to leave her if I eventually realize I’m interested in guys. In a party, she forced me to kiss with a guy. It happened, it was horrible. And then she flipped out and said she wasn’t serious about it and why I did that and what a whore I am. (…) In one and a half years into the relationship, she made me sleep with her. She bought a lot of shots and it happened. And immediately after that she said she wouldn’t have thought that I let myself, I am a bitch, I am a whore, and what a cripple I am that my first experience was with a girl.” Feeding from the sexist virgin/whore ambiguous expectations-judgements all women face, Lizi’s partner, although lesbian herself, downplayed lesbianism as secondary to heterosexuality (and thus connected infidelity to any interest in men).